Since everyone has their own opinion about what it takes to have a happy passionate marriage, it's easy to get stuck in paralysis by analysis. The truth is, I reveal 7 Success Principles for guaranteeing your success in having a happy passionate marriage (this is going to affect the marriage you’re in now. By using my system, it’s going to affect your life in so many ways). We'll look at the 4 fears that stop you from having the marriage you really want. When you see your fears differently, you’ll feel different. And when you feel different about something then you take different actions. So, this is the big principle.

Your Positioning

Positioning is getting clear on what you’re really wanting in your marriage. So, before we start putting all the strategies in place and learning all the techniques, something more important than that right now is getting clear on the marriage you really want.

Relationships fail for 3 main reasons:

1. Unresolved hurts
2. Ineffective communication, and
3. Not giving and receiving love according to each partner’s needs.

Spend some time thinking about the issues in your own marriage that have caused some resentment or a breakdown in trust or respect. Choose 2 or 3 that are persistent.

The Intimacy Quadrant is your path to success as you romance your soulmate. Its purpose is for you to find out your “Mate Type” in your relationship, depending on your level of physical intimacy or effective communication you share with your partner. Want to achieve more?

The four relationship “Mate Types” can be depicted as four quadrants in the Intimacy Quadrant: Housemate, Bestmate, Playmate, or Soulmate. You will find out which one of the 4 Mate Types you are in your relationship (or perhaps a combination of two types).

Firstly, realise that to have this asset, you've already built up a portfolio (let's call it), of experience and knowledge and skills, and you've invested considerable time, energy, and money creating this asset.

But right now, you are wasting your asset. There are thousands of people out there, all around the country, doing exactly the same as you. I know because I've helped thousands of them. That's how come I know you are. If you weren't wasting your asset, you wouldn't be here looking to do training. But you can leverage your asset by fixing your marriage.

So, let's have a look again at your asset. It contains experience, knowledge, and skills.

Now, these three things are unique to you, and coaching can help you increase or improve your asset and get a greater benefit from it.

But what's happening right now is that you're wasting it. Your marriage is falling apart. You're not speaking to one another. You're not talking about your feelings.

You can't communicate, you feel like you're from different planets, and you don't have sex anymore. So, you're not leveraging your asset. You're not getting the most out of your marriage… and the person who's benefiting the least from the asset is you. You and your family.

So, what's your marriage worth, financially? What have you already put into it?

A marriage breakdown is pretty devastating emotionally, but it's also devastating for your finances and is when the true pain of divorce may start to be felt. Some couples can spend between $100,000 and $1 million divorcing.

There's got to be a better way than divorce.

Marriagology allows you to have that security that you're not in a failing relationship anymore. It allows you to say goodbye to your marriage troubles forever… even if right now you think it’s beyond repair.

Your brain is your personality and you can change your brain if you don’t like the way you feel or think or behave. You can be in control of your life rather than perceive that things happen to you.

If the most successful people to reengage with their partners are those who take the time to really identify the power within themselves. This power comes from the knowledge of how they operate, the involvement of their brain in their experience of negative emotions, and the realization that all the emotions they feel ARE THEIR OWN FEELINGS.

Everything in life is about how you feel.

Stress is the feeling of negative emotion in your body. The process of stress rising and falling in the body is biological — stress is triggered by, but can be minimized by, your emotional brain.

The largest web of neocortical functioning in the brain (Areas A & B in the diagram on the right) is between the prefrontal cortex area — which regulates emotions, and the limbic structures — which drive emotional impulses. I call this the emotional brain.

Awareness of how every internal or external event in your life comes into your brain through the limbic system (which assesses all sensory experiences for threat or danger and determines your emotional style), will give you insight into how the emotion center of your brain really works, and will help you elevate your emotional well-being.

Most significantly, you learn to manage the reactions you have to those impulses and perceptions. So, understanding the Right Science leads directly to a happy flourishing marriage.

Hello! I'm Karen.

I’m a world-renowned expert in flourishing marriages and ADHD/ASD specialist coach since 1997 to over 3,600 clients worldwide including 1,200 couples who have been where you are—navigating the highs and lows of building a flourishing marriage from scratch.

Over the years, I’ve learned what works and what doesn’t, blending practical strategies with a bit of creative flair to create a system that truly reflects my own journey to a happy passionate marriage.

I developed this digital program because I want to share those insights with you, helping you break through the noise, find your unique voice, and build a marriage that’s not just happy, but also deeply rewarding.

I know what it feels like to feel stuck or overwhelmed by the daily grind, unsure of where to focus your energy. That’s exactly why I’m here—to help you simplify the process, stay inspired, and take confident steps toward your goals.

For the love of all things marriage, please note that your perception is your reality.

I outline the most common problem areas in relationships, namely unmet expectations and blame, unresolved hurts and feelings of anger (or withdrawal) because of things your partner says or does.

Unhappy people remain unhappy because they believe that someone else makes them feel like that, and they wait for that someone else to do something different so they can feel better. This seldom happens. We have learned that you and only you experience your feelings, and you and only you can change them.

You DO have the ability to change yourself, but NOT anyone else. Emotional awareness means owning and taking responsibility for your actions.

The Housemate Syndrome – “Whatever!”

Indifference may cause you simply to give up and think, “Whatever!” At least when there is resentment, you still have strong feelings, and yearn for things to be different. You experience anger, which can motivate you to still do things about the relationship. You may still organize events, try to communicate, and attempt to resolve issues. But once you are indifferent, the anger and therefore the will to do anything, evaporates.

Are you living together like housemates?

Feel taken for granted and not really in a loving relationship? What happens when you blame your partner for what happens to you—nothing!

When women talk about feelings men hear it as complaining. When men try to offer suggestions, women get irritated as they don’t realize that he is trying to help her.

Understanding and taking responsibility for your emotional style is an extremely important strategy to surviving your life dramas. Do not fall victim to The Housemate Syndrome—get help for your relationship soon.

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